Let’s face it . . . we’re all human and sometimes we say or do stupid things. No one is immune.
We often say we don’t “intend” to hurt someone or do something thoughtless, but whether we intend it or not, the impact of what we say or do is felt by other people. (Of course, they own their reactions, but that is a topic for another time . . . .)
If we keep hurting other people with our words or actions, at some point, we have to stop hiding behind “I didn’t intend to do that.” When we keep bumping up against reactions and challenges that we did not intend to cause, then we need to understand that the impact of what we are doing is not effective.
When we continue to do something “unintentionally” - even after we are aware of the effect of our actions - doesn’t that then become “intentional”?
It’s time to get conscious of what we’re doing and set clear intentions. It is less likely that our actions will be misinterpreted when we are clear about our intentions and act in accordance with them.
Understanding exactly what we want to say or do requires self-awareness.
“That’s not what I intended” may be an excuse the first time, but not the tenth. Once you are aware of the impact of your words or actions, adjusting them is up to you.
© 2017, Susan McCuistion