What Do You Expect to See?
I grew up in the desert southwest of the United States. Wildlife to me was roadrunners, quail, and other non-specific birds; snakes; and an occasional scorpion. Those were the things I was used to seeing when I looked out of the window at home, went horseback riding, or drove down the road.
Years later, I was vacationing in Barbados. I was on the back porch of the villa we were staying in, and I heard some rustling in the trees next to me. I looked up, but I didn’t see anything. The rustling continued. I looked up again, and a monkey came into focus on the outermost branches. Once I saw him, I noticed a mother carrying a baby on the wall right below the tree, and two young monkeys running around the base of a tree in the yard. I was amazed that it took me so long to see the entire family of monkeys right in front of me.
What happened? Well, I did not live in a place where monkeys existed in the wild. I only knew monkeys in the zoo, behind cages or in beautifully created enclosures. Monkeys were not part of my innate perception of “animals in the wild.” Because of that, it took me a while before I could perceive the family that was right before me.
What does all of this have to do with Compassionate Diversity®?
- Our culture influences our perception, and when our perception is influenced, so is our worldview.
- The things we see are the things we “expect” to see. When something enters our line of sight that we don’t expect, we might not see it at all. If we do see it, we might need a minute to focus on it before we actually see it.
- When we have challenges with other people, we see what our culture has taught us to see, and we believe everyone else sees it just the same way. The thing is, not everyone does.
So, when you bump up against a challenge, look again. Ask, “How did you see that?” or “Help me understand what you’re seeing.”
We don’t need to agree with each other, but we at least need to acknowledge that not everyone sees things the same way we do. When we can alter our perception and start to see things from each other’s perspectives, we can start having productive conversations about how to best resolve our differences.
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© 2017, Susan McCuistion